While residing in Louisiana, Holder and their spouse (whom asked her final title never be utilized) had been associated with an other woman, a relationship that didn’t pan down. Whenever Holder relocated to Fayetteville, Ga., for work, he stated he kept their household in Louisiana for 6 months to make sure he passed the probationary duration so the children could complete the school year out.

While surviving in Georgia and before their family that is primary moved, Holder came across Jeremy (who additionally asked their final title never be utilized) at a camping event.

“We clicked and I also figured he would click with my spouse,” Holder claims.

‘No sneaking around, no lying, no cheating’

Holder, whom identifies as bisexual, introduced their wife to Jeremy couple of years ago. He has that is private intimate — time with Jeremy in addition to together with wife. Melissa also offers a intimate relationship with Jeremy. But all three are quick to indicate that polyamory just isn’t about being promiscuous.

“The biggest myth is the fact that love equals intercourse. You are able to entirely love some body with out sexual intercourse,” Holder says.

Jeremy life in Alabama and visits Holder from the weekends and breaks.